the reason for my extended absence from this blog is because 
i lost my dad.
youree t. oliver passed away on thursday december 22, 2011.  
my heart has been broken. 
but i have faith in it's ability to mend through the love i feel from my family, friends 
and my beautiful, incredible, kind- hearted husband, sam. 
this new year and all the rest of the years that i live,
i vow to express my love for others as often as possible. 
i vow to communicate my feelings in hope of healing and growth.  
and... please call your mother and father and begin a new relationship this day.   
no matter what the nature of your relationship, when you lose a parent it will turn you inside out.


  1. Hi Alexys,

    I am so sorry to read about your loss and my condolences to your family. My mom died of cancer in 2002, 3 weeks after she was diagnosed. It totally changes everything. After someone dies the loving them goes on, and the relationship does not end but it does change. As the relationship with the person that has died changes we think about our relationship and experience the complexities of the love in it in vital ways, and all our thoughts about love and family come into perspective, and I hope that the process brings you wisdom and healing.


    Sabrina Esbitt

  2. happy new year my dear

    i missed u!!!!!!!

    great pixx


    xx rouli

  3. You will be in my prayers and thoughts. I am sorry to see that you lost a loved one and I am glad you came back to your outlet because we all love your blog :)

  4. I am so very sorry for your loss. I have not lost a parent, but I have lost grandparents who were like parents to me and I know that it can shatter you. I really and truly feel for you and though I don't know you, if you need anything, please don't hesitate to email me, even if it is just to vent or pour your heart out. I don't mind. I am glad that your father will continue to live through your memories of him. These pictures are so precious. Please take care and take your time coming back to blogging (though I have missed you here). My thoughts are with you.

  5. Alexys,
    What a beautiful memorial post. I am so, so sorry for your loss. I have also lost my father and I now know that the depths of our sorrows and the heights of our joys are intimately linked. I have no doubt that you will persevere though this loss and become an even more complex, thoughtful, amazing woman who lives life to her fullest as a result of this painful experience. And really, that is all a father could ever wish for in his daughter.

    All my love to you and Sam during these difficult times,

  6. I agree with brooke up above. This is such a loving and beautiful post. These pictures are so beautiful and precious. (Your father was so handsome!) I'm so happy that I got to see you and Sam last night. I love you something strong, my dear.

    Always thinking of you,

  7. My condolences... When I was 14, I lost my mom to cancer. Losing a person you love hurts, and to be honest, it will never stop hurting. Every day there is a little pain inside my heart.

    But it´s important to keep your dad in your life, by thinking of him, sharing his memories, doing things he tought you! He´ll be around you, watching you, and helping you :) I know it!

    One day a few years ago I went visiting my older sister. It was kind of embarrasing for me, but since I never made any, I had to ask her how to make pancakes :D! The second I asked that question, my sister looked at me, kind of shocked. Stood up, went to her bookshelve, took out one of our mom´s old cook-books, opened up a page, and there i was: "For Annika!" written above the pancake recipe :)
    Tears came out of my eyes the same second I started laughing!

    One of the little signs I know she is somewhere around me... And that makes me feel safe and warm!

    Keep your head up! God bless you!

    Lots of love from germany,


  8. I'm so terribly sorry for your loss :(

  9. Alexis,
    I am so sorry for your loss. I recently lost my father about two years ago last week, and sometimes it still feels like yesterday he was alive. If you ever want to talk, you know where to find me. Keep your beautiful head up!



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